The five love languages ​​is the answer

Do all couples know how to meet each other’s emotional needs? Why do so many couples break up after being in love for so long? These are the questions I asked myself before I got married. Fortunately, I found a book called The Five Love Languages ​​that helped me understand how couples express and receive love. This book gave me an idea of ​​how two people can live under the same roof and make each other happy.

The Five Love Languages ​​by Gary Chapman is a great book and a must read for all couples. As the title suggests, there are 5 love languages. They are:

• words of affirmation
• acts of service
• Quality time
• receive gifts

and

• physical contact

words of affirmation

Some people get satisfaction when they receive compliments and verbal credit. They want recognition, and hearing their partner express it verbally makes them feel appreciated.

Quality time

Some people want their partners to spend quality time with them. They expect to be the only focus during this time. If partners plan to watch a soccer game on TV while spending time with these people, they’d better think twice because this will be met with hostility.

receive gifts

Some attach great importance to the gifts they receive. In fact, gifts are symbols of love for them. Couples who often forget important days like birthdays will not make good matches with people who need this love language.

Acts of Service

For some, the love they receive is measured by the amount of service they receive from their partners. Cleaning, cooking, driving them and doing other things will fill their love tanks.

physical contact

For some people, the definition of love is having a lot of physical contact with your partner. Kisses, hugs, caresses, pats and other forms of physical contact are extremely important for them to feel loved.

I have often wondered how two people can make each other happy, especially when they have to see each other every day. This book enlightened me on how couples can do this. One thing is for sure, it is something that needs constant effort. It should not be taken for granted in the slightest, as there will be repercussions.

First of all, we need to know what our emotional needs are in a relationship. If we are confused as to what we want, it will be even more confusing for our partner. Next, we must understand what our partner’s emotional needs are. Gary Chapman says that we humans have love tanks in us and we want our tanks to fill properly.

For a relationship to be harmonious, we need to do our part and make sure our partner’s love tank is filled with the right love language(s) from time to time. This is something we don’t give up halfway.

The Five Love Languages ​​has definitely given me insight into how couples can successfully make their relationships last.

For all couples, The Five Love Languages ​​​​​​is a must-read because it provides them with the basic knowledge that every couple should know to make their relationship successful.