Teens and Porn – An Assessment of How to Keep God In and Satan Out!
Raising children is a wonderful experience, but when they start to get older and more independent, you still have to work hard to protect their innocence at all costs. God gave you these children, and while they are under your roof, you must take the time to recognize the “who, what, where, when, and why” of situations that begin early in their teen years, so that our confusing roadblocks they can become your coping experiences.
WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?
How old are they? Age means a lot because the influence of older children can certainly lead your child into unhealthy conversations about sex or opinions of other children which can especially affect their mental growth with God and can certainly undermine the truth of what you are trying to teach them. .
WHAT ENVIRONMENT DO YOUR FRIENDS COME FROM?
I have noticed that young adolescents act directly from the environment in which they are mainly. It’s easier to see your insecurities and your bad habits. I’m not saying that being raised by a “grandma” or a single parent is bad. Unfortunately, some of the kids I’ve met have been left free to do whatever they want and wear out a single parent or grandparent. Learned behaviors from these children can quickly rub off on your child if he avoids corrective measures. The best thing you can do is have these children in your house. Misbehavior is less likely to break out when he’s on your turf. It’s always good to make a list of pros and cons for a cork board near your teen’s room. It will also work well for your children.
WHERE ARE YOUR “HANGOUT” POINTS.
Never let a data center be out of sight. If you have a two-story house, place the computer system in the family area, close to where everyone hangs out. If the teen room is downstairs, be sure to keep an eye out for friends coming over, especially older teens whose friends may bring their own computers. Confiscate any external laptops you enter. Otherwise, you could find out that your teen has been looking at porn from someone else’s computer. Next, buy an annual computer filter. This filter company will give you ample warning when your subscription is running low.
WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT “BAD SIGNS”?
These bad signs are the way they talk to you and the attitudes they present. Computer history says a lot about your thinking and can contribute to your attitudes, so please always check it out.
The best time to talk to your teen is all the time. When a situation occurs, deal with it. This will prevent a later buildup of confusion and anger that can be projected from earlier situations.
WHY DO MY OLDER TEENAGERS BECOME SO AWAY?
Never let your guard down. What I mean by this is that your constant evaluation of his friends, girlfriends, and family time will play a huge role in his closeness or distance from you. Are they spending too much time in their rooms, on the phone, or on the computer? Yes, they’ll tell you they’re growing up, but overgrowing and independence can be a red flag. They begin to think that they know more than you and that outside influences mean more to them than their own. Tell them how you feel and have lots of conversations to eradicate this.
LAST BUT NEVER LEAST
If what you are doing is still met with resistance from your teen, then and this is done at my home first, start a family Bible reading or study where your teen is listening to God’s word. We keep a CD player loaded with Bible books that we play whenever and especially when teenagers are in the room. Your word can seep into your inner being when you are not even aware of it.