15 First Date Signs That He’s Interested In You!
It is no longer a secret that I am not a fan of persuading, manipulating and persecuting people to love us. There is nothing men find more off-putting than a woman repeatedly calling her asking for time and attention. Even if he initially liked you, “chasing” him will turn him off.
It is best to know and look for some common clues that indicate that he is interested in you. That way you won’t make a fool of yourself and completely kill even the little spark that with a little care could have turned into a flame!
Here are just 15 of the common clues that say you’re interested:
1. You voluntarily turn off your cell phone and/or pager so the two of you won’t be interrupted.
2. He maintains constant eye contact (those soulful looks) and smiles at you, a lot.
3. He comes across as more than a friendly person, but as someone who cares about you as a potential lover.
4. Compliment your appearance, not in a general way like “you look good”, but something very specific like “I like your eyes/hair/skin etc).
5. He is playful with you: he teases, teases, teases, poses challenges, anything that implies that he is seducing you and inviting you to “play” in the realm of reciprocal uncertainty. I’m not talking about sex here, seduction isn’t always about sex.
6. Find excuses (accidental or otherwise) to touch your arm (helping you up the stairs), your lower back (guiding you to the table), your shoulder (checking if you’re hot enough), etc. Any excuse to touch you.
7. He’s interested in talking to you, and that includes his body language leaning slightly towards you. He seems animated and genuinely happy to be talking to you and not scanning the room for other “prey.”
8. Asks questions about you, your life, your work, your passions, your childhood (or child(ren) if you have any), your dreams, your favorite color, etc.
9. Listen carefully and remember what he says. If you’re listening, you’ll find him repeating some of the things you’ve said to prompt more questions. You’ll also notice that he’s using some of his own expressions and phrases – it’s called mirroring.
10. Openly share information about your life; respond directly and honestly to their questions. This is not the same as “dumping their emotional problems into your lap.” It should be clear that he is interested in you as a ‘love interest’, not as a therapist.
11. He references that something is going to happen “next time” or directly asks you early in the date if you’re free on this or that day to do this or that.
12. He doesn’t just say goodbye and walks away but hangs around for a bit probably hoping for a kiss but not wanting to mess things up by being too forward.
13. Tries to extend the date by asking you if you’d like to go somewhere for coffee or asks you to share a drink (his place, your place wherever). It just goes to show that he can’t get enough of you.
14. He calls you the same night or the next day after the date just to tell you he had a great time.
15. He asks you out on a date again in a few days; anything that looks like it wants to keep you busy so you’re off the market.
Truth be told, when a man is interested in you, he will make his interest known in more ways than you can count. So are men. Correction. That’s how REAL men are.
If you’re already dating someone, you can also check out my article 10 Warning Signs You’re Not Being Loved Enough. If you’re always trying to persuade or pursue someone, you’ll find valuable information on my website about choosing the “right” people, including separating high potential dates from energy drains, the types of relationships that won’t last a lot, how to identify who is capable of giving and taking relationships, etc. My wish is that all of us can choose partners with whom we can have the pleasure of “playing” instead of against or to play with.