The Narcissist: A Life of Double Betrayal
Beneath the disarming facade and fascinating allure, the narcissist is calculating his next winning moves. Whether personal or professional, he is always focused on enhancing his image, power, reach and material generosity. Friendships are used to place you on a higher social and professional level of power and influence. Narcissists are determined and ruthless in achieving their goals. They act without mercy, compassion or empathy. It’s not unusual for them to purposely marry someone who gives them social access to the accessories these places provide. Marriage is an arrangement, a business deal. Narcissists tend to marry numerous times, have many boyfriends / girlfriends, and seek other intimate relationships and adventures.
Narcissists are often traitors in their personal and business dealings. “Betrayal is a profound betrayal of trust that causes serious harm to another human being.” Betrayal is a brutal betrayal. Without conscience or guilt, the narcissist is free to treat people as puppets in the drama of his life.
In business, the narcissist is brutal and predatory. Many narcissists are very contentious. They have small armies of lawyers available to sue those they perceive to be obstacles to their goals, be they rational, moral, ethical, or legal. If they are high-level narcissists who have enjoyed success in the world, they can intimidate even those who have legitimate legal grievances against them. With their monetary weight, they use smart attorneys who find the loophole that will allow them to win their case. If the injured party does not back down, the narcissist will counter-sue his adversary. The aggrieved person is left without recourse. You cannot risk financially a lengthy court battle and an unknown verdict.
In their personal lives, narcissists abuse their families psychologically and monetarily, leaving their wives / husbands, lovers, boyfriends, girlfriends, and children to fend for themselves. They often hide their assets from their ex-wives and ex-husbands and their children by cleverly placing them in offshore investments. Narcissists are not concerned with the serious psychological and monetary consequences of their treacherous behaviors. They have gone on to create another life that will fulfill their great dreams.
It is hard for many people to believe that some human beings can be so calculating, so treacherous. The narcissist learned from childhood that human consequences do not matter, that the feelings of others are immaterial, that everyone is expendable. Developing an awareness and understanding of the dynamics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a wise decision.