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My ex won’t talk to me, what can I do?

Texting, phone calls, social media … your ex was a big part of your daily life. But now that he’s suddenly gone? You miss him and want him more than ever.

If you’re trying to get an ex back, nothing is more frustrating than a lack of contact. You may be thinking, “How can I make him love me again if my ex won’t even talk to me? What’s my next step?”

Losing a loved one is always difficult. Losing constant contact, even more so. This is one of the hardest parts of the breakup. Knowing that if you can’t get it back, all this daily contact that you came to love so much just disappears.

But what if he doesn’t even TALK to you? How are you supposed to get it back?

Why doesn’t my ex call me?

First, let’s examine why your ex doesn’t talk to you after the breakup. It has nothing to do with me hating you. It has everything to do with the feelings I used to have for you.

Look, the emotional ties that form during the beginning of your relationship are strong. The more time you spend with your ex, the stronger these bonds will be. The more fun you have with your boyfriend, the closer these connections will be.

“There will always be a special place in my heart for you …”

Did you ever hear that phrase? That is the basis for falling in love. When two people share a connection, on a heart-to-heart level, they leave footprints in each other’s lives. You have most likely done this with your ex boyfriend. And the chances are even greater that he knows.

Your boyfriend rejects you for one reason only: to ignore these connections. When your ex isn’t talking to you, calling you, or responding to your text messages, it’s because he’s trying to continue the breakup by burying his existing feelings.

Leave it alone, eventually? Those feelings will go away. But there is a limited window of opportunity, right after the breakup, when you can use those same feelings against him.

The best ways to get your ex to communicate with you

Now, the fact that your ex-boyfriend seems to ignore you isn’t all bad. Actually, this is a necessary part to get it back. Reconciliation cannot happen until two things happen:

  • 1) Your ex-boyfriend misses you.
  • two) Your ex sees you differently than he does now.

The missing part is easy … but difficult at the same time. Why the first thing you should do after breaking up? It is to let go of ALL CONTACT with your ex boyfriend.

No contact means TOTALLY no contact! You can’t email, call, text, or even “Like” him on his Facebook posts. You cannot comment on their Instagram photos. You can’t ask his friends about him.

Basically, you need to exclude your ex from your life, in the same way that he excludes you. He needs to turn around and check on you … and see absolutely NOTHING.

Understand something: you never miss someone until they are no longer around. It’s impossible for your ex to start missing you if they get constant updates on how you’re doing, through their friends, your friends, social media, or whatever.

Now I know that “no contact” will be difficult. In fact, it is the hardest thing to do. You will think that by not talking to him, you are actually distancing yourself from your boyfriend. You will feel that he is running away or that he will forget about you.

However, in reality, you are putting yourself in the best possible position for a future reconciliation. Because after a certain period of time, you will use one or more reconnection techniques to get back in touch.

Getting your ex to see you as a girlfriend again

Right now your ex boyfriend doesn’t see you as girlfriend material. That’s why he broke up with you. Even if he is thinking about seeing someone else, or there were other factors, there was a time when he loved you more than anyone or anything else.

Getting back together is about bringing it back to that time.

Every feeling your ex once had for you is like a direct chord that leads back to his heart. There are methods and techniques to play those chords, very softly, so that they reverberate against your boyfriend’s heart in the form of fond memories of the past.

Their past history together is a huge bonus. But you have to take advantage of that advantage in very subtle ways, or your boyfriend will figure out what you’re trying to do. Once he sees that, all bets are off. Getting it back will be difficult once you know what you are doing.

At the same time, if you can achieve it? You will change their way of thinking. Your ex will start thinking about you again and in all the good ways. Best of all, when are you ready to reconcile? You will think that getting back together was its idea.

This ideology is crucial to staying together. The last thing you want is for your ex to take you back out of pity or grief. That relationship won’t last a week. But when does HE think he’s really losing something by losing you? He will work hard to make the new relationship work.

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