Is looking at the "Bachelor / Bachelor’s degree" an education about "What is a narcissistic emotional abuser?"

Some of the ABC shows “The Bachelor” and ABC “The Bachelorette” appear to be eligible curricular material for a psychology class that teaches about personality disorders. Whether it’s Ashley Ebert’s encounter on ABC’s 2011 “The Bachelorette” or ABC’s 2012 “The Bachelor” where Jake Flajnik met his partner, viewers are getting an education on what a narcissistic emotional abuser is.

A contestant who made a statement on the 2011 season of “The Bachelorette” like, “I’d rather swim in a pool full of urine than …” behind the back of the woman he was trying to get attention. easily identifiable as cold and insensitive. Certainly many other descriptors apply.

There is no difference present compared to the 2012 season with Ben Flajnik when one of the female contestants on national television refers to a fellow contestant as a stripper and a home wrecker without any evidence to support the claim. This same contestant displayed cold, callous demeanor rather than empathy when making comments like “Who’s got the rose?” or in a different situation, “How did that taste come out of your mouth?”

Is the excuse of not receiving a manual on how to react or respond in a very emotional situation acceptable? Season after season, loyal ABC watchers “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” have seen dozens of contestants highly stressed and excited without these contestants displaying cold, insensitive behavior.

Statistically, if the prevalence rate of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is 4%, or one in 25, is it mathematically correct to say that each season we might suspect that there is a contestant exhibiting narcissistic symptoms, thus becoming a narcissistic emotional abuser?

It seems that the two ABC shows mentioned above have got it right. The drama created by the disorderly narcissistic personality is entertaining if that is the kind of entertainment the viewer is looking for.

Is this safe, however, for “The Bachelorette” or “The Bachelor”? In the event that the narcissist is chosen and when negotiations and compromises are required within healthy relationships, what happens then?

The same poison of coldness and insensitivity of the heart that took place behind the backs of “The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” will be struck head-on by the unexpected. The dangerous twist is how calculated and calibrated the narcissist is with his coldness and insensitivity.

“The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” will no longer be confused wondering who they should believe when others tell them of the narcissist’s behaviors. Now they will be confused firsthand by the dissenting messages given by the narcissist in everyday life.

In one moment, the unexpected will be taken to the heights of emotional bliss and the next moment will be plunged into the depths of human pain. If “The Bachelorette” or “The Bachelor” have increased financial success in their lives, there will also be a game in that area.

Viewers of ABC’s “The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” are entertained. They are also being educated about the behaviors of a narcissistic emotional abuser.

Right before the eyes of the spectator and the contestant, the games played by a narcissistic emotional abuser are played. The narcissist’s behaviors are meaningless and leave everyone with negative feelings of disbelief and stomach anxiety.

As a viewer of ABC’s “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette,” would you rather be entertained with or without being educated about what a narcissistic emotional abuser is?

If you choose to entertain yourself without the drama and emotional pain created by narcissistic emotional abusers, perhaps a simple psychological test that identifies individuals with personality disorders could be implemented in the process of selecting future contestants on “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette “from ABC.

You could experience positive emotions while enjoying watching the feelings of love evolve between two human beings. Positive feelings that come with the hope that two humans have found lasting love.

After all, isn’t that why you choose to watch a show called “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette”?